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Help Disabled People Have Their Own Families
By KOU ZHENGLING

In a small single-story house at Shawo Dongqitiao in Beijing,Li Hongbo, 36, a polio-sufferer,runs his own Huashi Household Electrical Appliances Maintenance Shop. He has established a good reputation in the neighborhood through his superb craftsmanship and reasonable prices. But, even more satisfying for Li is that he now has a happy family life.

"It's she who gives me a real family," he said, pointing to a 20inch wedding photo hanging on the wall of the 10-square-meter furnished room.

Wedding Ceremony

Recalling the scene at the wedding ceremony last January 14, Li and his wife are still excited.

On that day, the multi-function hall of the Beijing Activity Center for Disabled People was bustling with excitement. The event brought together leaders of the national and Beijing federations for disabled persons, matchmakers providing a service for the disabled, relatives and friends of 12 couples of disabled brides and bridegrooms, and managers of the Xidafu Wedding Service Co.

To the accompaniment of the solemn Wedding March, the 12 couples passed through a passage of garlands held by etiquette mistresses and came to the middle of the hall. Facing a huge Chinese character "double happiness", the couples went through a blend of Chinese and Western wedding rituals arranged by the sponsors. The program was then followed by performances staged by the newlyweds and art workers of the China Federation for Disabled Persons. Some writers and painters presented the brides and bridegrooms with books and paintings. Afterwards, to their surprise, a tower-shaped, three-tiered cake with the Chinese characters "Wish the Affectionate Couples Will Live to a Ripe Old Age in Conjugal Bliss" was placed before them. The wedding ceremony ended with the lighting of candles and the newlyweds praying in silence.

"I never had the extravagant hope of such an unforgettable wedding ceremony," said Li, who likes writing poems in his spare time.

All the expenditure on the wedding ceremony, including the cost of wedding photos and gifts, were covered by Beijing Roman Century Beauty Photography Co. and Xidafu Wedding Service Co.

The 12 couples suffer from various types of limb deformity, or varying degrees of mental retardation, sight, hearing and speech impairment. Some are selfemployed workers, some editors or technicians, while others are working with state-owned enterprises where they can work within their own capabilities. The sphere of their activities is relatively small compared with people who are sound in mind and body. It is with the help of the matchmaking service that these disabled people can get together.

Matchmaking Service

The matchmaking service, located at Dongsi Jiutiao in Beijing, occupies only a simply furnished room of 10 square meters. The most eye-catching are a line of accession books hanging on the wall and a telephone that hardly ever stops ringing.

"Although we call it the Disabled Person's Matchmaking Service, actually, we also provide services for people who are sound in mind and body," said Ren Yida,its director.

"On the one hand, there is a possibility that people without any disability will fall in love with a disabled person. We can provide them with the opportunity. On the other hand, we can use the money we charge the normal clients to support the free service for the disabled people," Ren added.

A regular client only needs to pay 180 yuan for unlimited matchmaking service until the right partner is found. "There are some 413,000 disabled persons in Beijing. Among them, 80 percent have financial difficulty. If we charge them for our services, it is bound to exclude them," explained Ren.

The matchmaking service also gets help from the mass media. For example, the Shopping Guide and other commercial newspapers published marriage-seeking advertisements for the disabled free of charge. Staff of the matchmaking service also regularly go deep into Beijing's welfare factories to enter names of unmarried disabled persons in their register.

On the final weekend of each month, a party is held at the multifunctional hall of the Beijing Disabled Person's Federation, with the aim of providing opportunities for disabled youth to become acquainted with each other. More than 12,000 people have registered, including 4,000 disabled. At present, more than 200 couples have married with the help of the matchmaking service.

Many disabled friends regard it as their "parental home". When they experience something, whether good or bad, they like to talk it over by telephoning the service.

Jia Chunlan is one of its senior staff. She gave up her well-paid job in a commercial department to work with the service in 1984 just after it was founded. She loves her job, even though she works 12 hours a day and is often on duty on holidays. Disabled friends call her "elder sister". "The disabled are more fragile than persons without mental or physical difficulties.What they need most are concern and understanding," she said. "They regard me as their intimate friend. I also respect and understand them. I think my job is very important."

After getting married, some disabled couples often asked for help from the service whenever they encountered difficulties in their daily life. Some disabled persons have no jobs, so they have to live on state relief funds. After getting married, they find themselves idle all day long and lacking mental ballast, which can lead to family disharmony and instability. To solve the problem, Director Ren plans to cooperate with Beijing Mapping Team to train some disabled persons to become data typists.

However, it is not easy for the service to buy scanners, mappers and computers with its limited funds. "We always follow the principle of doing something that the disabled persons need. We will continue to seek some appropriate cooperative projects to solve the difficulties in their life," said Ren.

(Beijing Review p.12 No. 21, 1998)


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